Importance of the first 7 years of a child’s life

Give me a child until he is 7 and I will give you the man

aristotle

Imagine if someone told you that your child’s first 7 years of life will determine the adults they become and the quality of their life. Would you be willing to do things differently? Do things more consciously? 

Children are like sponges. They soak up everything! They are little learning machines that can absorb vast amounts of data and information just through observation alone. 

Depending on how you see things, this could either be something completely terrifying or super exciting. Why? 

Because as parents, the words we use and the way we behave can either have a negative or positive impact on our children and the standard of life they will grow up to live. 

This blows my mind everytime I think about it, mostly because I know what a great impact I can have on my children to help them be content, healthy and successful human beings. 

Everyone’s idea of success is different. I believe it’s about teaching children the family’s core values, to help realise their own blueprint and bring it to life, to ensure they are equipped with life skills and tools so they live a life that supports them mentally, physically, emotionally and psychologically, to know the importance of making good food choices to aid their physical health as food is our medicine, to help uncover their life’s purpose and to positively contribute to the world.

In the first seven years of life, a child is in ‘theta’, which is the same as a hypnotic state and they download EVERYTHING in their environment. The child’s conscious mind is not yet developed so it absorbs everything it sees. 

Think of your child like a computer. Without any software, the computer doesn’t function. It needs software in order to work. Everything your child sees and experiences in the first years of infancy is downloaded by them. The data collected in those first years effectively forms the program they will use to run how the rest of their lives. 

This is how behaviours are passed through families. 

Fascinating, right?!…Read on.

A huge 95% of our life is run by the subconscious mind. Have you ever driven to a destination and not remembered how you even got there? This is because driving has become a skill that sits in your subconscious mind so you can do it without having to think about it.

Take the book ‘Rich Dad Poor Dad’ by Robert Kyoski. The main message it conveys is this: if you were stupid and born into a rich family, you are more likely to succeed than if you were smart and born into a poor family. Why? 

Because the respective behaviours (not genes) are passed down and this is generally why the rich stay rich and the poor stay poor.

The first thing a baby learns when it is born is who the parent is. The parent then acts as a point of reference for that child. For example, if a child is upset, it will look for its parent. If a child falls, it will look for its parents. This is why it’s SO CRUCIAL that we, as parents, are on our A-Game, always! We are our child’s safety net, security, reinforcer and entire world. 

To break patterns of old parenting habits, we need to practice conscious parenting

This means thinking and being FULLY AWARE of what we are teaching our children and not pass down generations of unconscious parenting. 

It’s not easy, I admit, but it’s necessary if our goal is to raise content, successful and thoughtful future generations with less mental, physical and psychological issues. 

If your child is over 7 years of age and has effectively passed the ‘hypnotic’ stage, it’s still not too late to reinforce positive behaviours by the way you do things. 

There are a couple of ways you can adopt better behaviours. See my post on ‘Power of our Thoughts’ for more information on how you can learn and implement new behaviours.

Remember, you are your child’s role model, idol and superhero!

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